On my Wall Thursday "Dont Decide on Something When You're Angry, Don't Even Promises when You're Happy"

Never to decide when you're angry, when all you have is bitterness and cold heart.
Let me share this one.v A mom was so angry when her husband can't provide enough money to pay bills for the month. Their eldest is a fresh graduate in fact just 3 weeks before the incident. She asked her mom for a little money to use for job application expenses. And because she's so mad she shouted back at her daughter "and you, you think you have the right for your fathers earnings? We're done. You go and find your own money. We don't need you here". That moment her mom meant what she just said.

She packed her back that very day and leaved. She haven't eaten any meal for two days but she's decided to apply for a job. She got that first job and never returned home for almost two years.

She was force to work for her own. She send money for her siblings. She tried to survive away from her family.

She was asked to come home and visit. For four years, she learned to forgive but not to forget.

Again, never ever decide with angst.


Here's the other side of it. She found out that his boyfriend was cheating on her but she decided not to mention it until they're both ready. She looked for evidence, she asked for some assurance that her guy loved her more than the other girlfriend. The other girl used to call their boyfriend every other day. They talk and laugh a lot on phone. "Who was that? Why you seem so happy?", she asked pretending happy but her heart is aching. "Oh, My friend back in high school", the boy replied.

After one year , she couldn't take the pretending anymore so she asked for moment of serious talk. She mention every thing she knew about the cheating, the girls name, her whereabouts, how long they been fooling around and all the pain she felt while hiding. She was so calm with an open mind she asked for an explanation. He's so happy for the just she gave him. And promised he will not do it again.

And guess what, he cheated on her for the second time with the same girl.

See?